8 BEST MARRIAGE ADVISE

                             We all wants to live a happy and successful married life. We do great efforts to make our partner happy and to be loved by them. But sometimes, most of the couples faces lots of problems in their married life and after fed up of all that, they decide to be separate.
                              We should face the problems and try to find the solution before taking any worst steps which can ruin our whole life.
           So here are the best advice given by marriage365.org. , you must follow...

1.  GO ON DATE NIGHTS-  Date night is sacred and special and should be on the same day of the week every week. One week the wife should suggest the date idea and the husband should come up with the date night plan for the opposite week. This encourages both the husband and wife to be invested in date night. - Julie Spira, Dating and Relationship Coach. Just because you are married, doesn't mean you should stop dating each other. Make the time to have fun, create memories, connect and ask open -ended question and dream together and never stop pursuing each other.

2.  COMMUNICATION-  Most marriage counselors agree that communication can either make or break a relationship. Couples who know how to effectively and openly communicate with each other experience fulfilled relationships, empathy and true intimacy with their spouses. But on the other hand, those who don’t are likely to experience a buildup of anger, frustration and resentment.Perhaps, it is true that effective communication in a marriage is the single most important aspect of a successful relationship. By freely communicating with your spouse, you open the doors to nourishing and growing your relationship. Though it can be challenging, learning to love and respecting your spouse and communicating with them in an intimate way can make your marriage a truly beautiful union.Your spouse/partner is not a mind reader. Constant communication keeps you on the same page and sets the right expectations to each other. Set aside at least 10 minutes a day to talk to each other about life.

3.  APOLOGIZE-  You've made a mistake and now it's time to own it and apologize to your spouse. Being right is not as important as being together. Taking responsibility for the pain you've caused will create a trusting environment.

4.  BEST ASSUMPTION-  Don't assume you already know what your spouse is going to say and how they will respond. Happily married couples focus on the positive qualities and always assume the best of each other.

5.  CHOOSE LOVE-  Feelings come and go but true love is a choice. Everyday do something that will move you closer to your spouse and find new ways to love them by being intentional with showing small acts of kindness.

6.  FIGHTS-  You will fight. It’s inevitable.

• Don’t bring up the past. Last week’s fight was last week. If he cheated on you five years ago and you forgave him, it’s off limits. If she broke your favorite mug last month, let it go.
• Don’t ever use the words “you always” or “you never.” Ever. For example, ” You ALWAYS leave dishes in the sink and NEVER help out with the dog.” Never? Not once? Really? And being accusatory, using “you” is an attack. Instead, try, “I get really frustrated when dirty dishes are still in the sink and the dog hasn’t been fed. It would really make me more relaxed and happier if I got some help with those two things.”
• Don’t talk, listen. It’s so frustrating when you’re talking and you know the other person is just planning his retort in his head.

Stop wasting your time fighting who is wrong and who is right. Rather, take the time and find win-win solution that work for both of you.

7.  KISS OFTEN-  Kissing is not only a great option for foreplay but it also produces the 'LOVE' hormones. This hormones creates an environment for connection , trust, respect, safety and love.

8.  FORGIVE- A critical tool for a successful marriage is the ability to forgive your spouse. Being able to let go of past hurts, disappointments and petty arguments is a way to keep yourself healthy both physically and emotionally. When partners practice forgiveness, fully aware that both individuals are capable of hurting and making mistakes, their marital bond becomes stronger. Nursing perceived hurts can hamper the union, wear partners down and make way for hate and extreme bitterness. Practice forgiveness and make it an intimate part of your married life.  Forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling. And because your spouse isn't perfect, you will have to choose to forgive them, so that you're not bitter and filled with resentment. Forgiveness is the greatest habit you can learn for your marriage.

           Accept these useful tips to enjoy your married life happily....